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Friday
Jun242011

ode to ryan.

so, in this post on my first trimester, i mentioned ryan deserved his own post (and gold medal) for what he did during the first trimester. everything in our lives turned upside down -- the foods i could eat, the energy i had, both our work schedules, everything on our to do list, where i could literally be in our house (my nose is a tracking device these days), what we could get done in a day or weekend.

i suddenly couldn't ever be in the kitchen or go to the grocery store or really even think about food. i didn't touch a load of laundry for two months. we never knew if i'd be well enough to get in the car & go somewhere. all while my job was more intense than ever, ryan was transitioning to a new squadron, we were trying to re-do our backyard (oy), and life in general charged on.

ryan would get two eggos ready for me every morning (even if he was leaving for base at 4 a.m., he'd put them by the bed). he kept the house well stocked with gatorade and goldfish. he made countless mcdonald's fries runs. he'd go to the pharmacy & grocery, sometimes several times a night. when I got nauseas in a store, he'd run to get me white rice & salt from panda express, and stand with me while i sat on an exercise bike (the only place i could find to sit down) and took 45 minutes to eat it all. when we went to a restaurant & i had a bad wave of nausea and had to run to the parking lot, he brought four things out & sat on the pavement with me as i tried to eat them. when none of them sounded good, he wasn't discouraged, he put his arm around me and told me he'd go to every restaurant on the block if that what it took to find me something i could eat. (we ended up with a waffle cone of vanilla from dairy queen!). he'd read to me at night so i could stay distracted & fall asleep at my new bedtime of 8:30 p.m.

even more than these acts of love, he kept me going. it sounds funny, but when i started to get sick, we had a routine (ice pack, chair, mouthwash!). he did everything he could to get me comfortable & keep my morale up. when i had nothing left to give & felt like giving up, he'd remind me how amazing this baby is going to be & how strong i could be. when i didn't think it was possible to smile, he'd say something so funny, i'd be belly laughing in no time, forgetting how miserable i was.

if you've been reading this blog for a while, you know this pregnancy isn't the first time i've been incredibly grateful to be going through life with ryan. you know how intentional we try to be about our marriage. that said, the rubber hit the road these past two months & ryan was more loving and present than i could have possible imagined. 

as you might imagine, now on the other side, what i realize is not only was it all worth it because we have a healthy baby on the way, but because it strengthened our marriage in ways i didn't know were possible. we were in survival mode, we had each other to lean on, and we made it. 

this won't begin to be the hardest thing we endure together (parenting is on the horizon!), and we hardly did it perfectly, but i am so grateful to ryan. i also wrote this post because there is so little dialogue on marriage today, and what it really takes, and i think on its' best days t&f can be a home for that conversation.

image here!

Friday
Jun172011

let's catch up, part two.

some more fun to catch you up on:

1. right after ryan got home & we got to celebrate our big news, our dear friends, kaitlin & andy came to visit from denver! we were beyond excited about this visit & had so much fun with them!!

2. i also learned that virgin mango mojitos are amazing!

3. we have silly husbands.

4. one of my favorite pregnancy stories thus far involved a trip to our favorite bagel store right when my morning sickness was starting to really kick in (little did i know there would be weeks ahead where i wouldn't dream of walking in a bagel store!). i really wanted to try to get some protein with an egg & cheese bagel, but wasn't sure i could stomach it. so, i thought about a safer bet of a bagel with cream cheese. when i explained this conundrum to ryan he enthusiastically said, "get both!!" and then "I'm going to do that too!!" and so began ryan loving when pregnancy means he gets a philly cheesesteak or unexpected trip to get ice cream or two bagels.

5-6. in the midst of weeks of not leaving the house when i felt so, so sick, there was this one saturday where i had a glimmer of feeling good. it was a beautiful day, so we found a park to get some fresh air.

hopefully, we'll be pack to regular photo taking soon! xo

Thursday
Jun162011

let's catch up.

so, to be honest, our trusty camera has been gathering some dust recently. i miss capturing our life & getting to share it with you here. there have been a few moments in these past seven weeks or so when i've felt well enough or we had the camera handy & so let me catch you up:

1-3. had an amazing group of girls over to decorate easter eggs & it was oh so fun. we stood in our tiny kitchen and talked for 2 hours, but eventually wandered over to our big dining room table & started hatching plans (pun intended) to decorate them. we marbleized them (add olive oil to dye!), used electrical tape to make designs, and just dropped them in the dye & waited to see what happened.

4. i was also waiting to tell ryan our BIG news & was afraid i'd forget some of my earliest thoughts about this little one. so, i wrote him a card. isn't this one fun?

5. mother's day has never meant more -- this was my present for my amazing mom. who doesn't love cute cupcakes?!

more soon! xo

Tuesday
Apr052011

sunday afternoon walk.

 

 

sunday afternoon we explored one of our new favorite walking routes (it happens to be close to one of our favorite places to go get frozen yogurt...). everything was coming up in blooms & it felt so good to get so much fresh air. it's becoming a new family tradition on sundays & i just love it.

Monday
Apr042011

weekend with friends.

 

 

 

 

we had such a wonderful weekend with our dear newlywed friends, molly + jack. a little glimpse:

1-3. a little peak at our guest room! you might remember this chalkboard project, which continues to be a hit. 

4-5. so, i got a little carried away. desperate to use my china, i put on the dog for molly + jack. ryan came home to the table set and i immediately said, "i know it's a little much, but i'm a little much!!" & he gave me a huge smile.

6-7. my sweet husband ran to the hardware store before they arrived (i always have an absurd number of projects i want to try to finish when guests are coming...) and he came back with tulips & a latte. gosh, i'm lucky.

saturday was so wonderful -- we went on a walk & grabbed lunch, then took some girl time/guy time. molly & i went to get pedicures & j.crew (classic, right?!) and the boys went to see the helos & this awesome bar (just playing our roles ;) then we met up at our place to watch butler win (wahoo!!) & have a great dinner.

8-12. sunday morning was absolutely gorgeous. we slept in & went to a new-to-us brunch spot that was so great.

next up, sharing a wonderful walk ryan & i took sunday afternoon. how was your weekend?! xo

Monday
Mar282011

our kind of weekend.

Tuesday
Mar222011

brotherly weekend.

Monday
Mar142011

first weekend of spring.

this weekend was soooo good. it was over 60 degrees both days, which made my heart happy. we took looonnggg walks, sat on our front steps, talked with neighbors & made big plans for our yard and garden. dreams of outdoor dinners seemed possible & soon. these images begin to tell the story:

1. dinner with new friends!

2. late night mcdonald's vanilla cone (remember this mini-date night?). sun roof open, good music, almost forgot we're adults with a mortgage.

3.  the new paint in our family room is a-mazing!! sherwin williams gray clouds is phenomenal -- can't wait to show you the finished room! every time we walk past/in the room we say something about how much we LOVE it. it feels twice as big & like it gets twice the natural light.

4. i tried the cinnamon buns hair from cup of jo & absolutely loved it. what do you think?

5. to ring in spring, i snuck away saturday afternoon for a much needed pedicure. a stack of magazines & bright coral on my toes did my soul good.

6. saturday night, we got home from a really long walk & were excited to cook dinner, but oh so hungry. we put together this little cocktail hour. my grandmother calls this "hot hor d'ouevres" which i always think is so funny (because of course it's just crackers & cheese)

7. because the paint was still drying in the back room, all our books were off the bookshelves & in our living room. i nestled down to read & ryan snapped this photo.

how was your weekend?!